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MENU Why is the swinging lifestyle getting popular? What is in this lifestyle that makes a large number of couples want to join in? Why are swingers different? | Go Up | There is nothing different in the people who call them selves swingers. However the difference is in their actions, they do about their sexual fantasies. They try to make their fantasies reality. Not too long ago in regular everyday life, sex used to be something between two people who were in love. (I wrote regular everyday life - prostitution does not count into the category regular). In our today's modern society most of the people can tell the difference between sex and love. Love is something very personal - between two people. We do make love with our partner who we love with all our hearts. Love making - with out love is sex only. Sex can be something leisure. Leisure - having a great time. To having a great time you do not need to love your partner. You just need to find something sexy in your partner, something that turn you on. Swingers says need to have chemistry. In our modern society for females and males have the same right to enjoy life. Women can join the army, women can be a "policeman" or firefighter. Not too long ago it was impossible. In other words men and women are the same. Before, nobody talked about women's sexual related fantasies. And if some lady tried to make her fantasy reality everyone called her a slut. If a man did something about his sexual fantasies it was okay.... Today most of the people (men - women) are extremely busy. Work, family - kids, business, trainings. Couples sex lives are becoming boring and here comes swinging. Something that spices up the boring sex lives. The swinging lifestyle is about sharing sexual fantasies with your partner. This lifestyle can only work for committed couples that are secure in their relationships and have open and direct communication with each other. And some people get into swinging, because fantasizing sex with multiply partners. This is the only chance for "selected" singles to join in. But the lifestyle developed new problems. | Go Up | Some men dream about swinging too long. Dreaming about horny women and when finally the dream turns to be reality, he is un able to perform. Why does this happens? It is called Stage - Fever or Stage - Fright. The name comes from beginner artist, standing on the theatre's stage and nervous to death.... and they might forget everything. In this lifestyle most people think this only affects men. It can happen with women to. She dreams about having sex with two powerful young studs at once, and when the two guys are ready to make her fantasy come true, she is so nervous she can't even be horny. However she can act as a horny women, because her "status" is not physically visible. She maybe dry, but most likely one of her partners will perform oral sex on her and saliva is a excellent moisturizer. If the man has stage fever he might not get hard. If his partner is experienced, she will get him in the mood or he can make himself hard with Viagra... but maybe he wont be able to cum. What is the reason behind this? The answer is simple, not being comfortable. In normal every day life, in a man - woman relationship the couple don't have sex until they are comfortable with each other. This might take only a few hours or some people might need few months. In the swinging lifestyle it is different. Nobody wants to date for months with out sex. You look around and you better get comfortable or choose another partner. When it comes to play time you might have a chance to play with someone you have never seen before and that someone might expect a great performance from you. So how comfortable can you be? Completely naked men, inexperienced in the lifestyle, try to have sex with a stranger? To make it worse - a couple of people might watch him. Doesn't sound to relaxing, and it isn't at all. Maybe a few people can perform in any situation, but most can't. | Go Up | And it is not his or her fault. Everyone has to get to know their partner as much as it will make them feel comfortable. If you are not comfortable, you should not get naked. You should wait or look around, talk, assist others and maybe something is going to get you go, something might turn you on. If it wont happen you are not the first and not the last in this kind of situation. Remember, there always is a next time. If you can not do it the first time, you have to try again and you will do it. One more thing - don't drink, alcohol wont help. Our partner Datingsense.com upgraded their service. The site has detailed and fast search features now. Also with a full membership you will have access to lot of swingers related information plus erotic swingers stories, some of them based on true swingers parties. Have a lot of fun and play safe....
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